Coping with Parental Alienation


In this case, if you are the target parent in the center of parental alienation, most probably things are really tough to handle. Thinking of what you did or what causes your child to ignore you, not talking with you or doing bad things against, you can cause you sleepless nights and frustration. There is a tendency that you will blame yourself and may feel doubt to talk about it with other people even your relatives because you fear that the fault will be laid back to you. The feeling of being alone lost or powerless is also inevitable. This kind of scenario can also affect your other activities in life like the way you perform your job, your part as a parent, as a good friend and in totality, it can affect your whole life.

In the modern that people have today and the real life situations that rapidly evolved, you are not alone facing this kind of relationship issue with your own children. In fact, there are even other children who are facing a harder situation than you are. So, moving on, get to know more information about this matter and good thing that you are here on this page right now as you can get some important details about the meaning of parental alienation and the ways to deal with it as well.

What is Parental Alienation?

In 1980’s, there is a theory that is released by R. A. Gardner referred to as a kind of disorder – Parental Alienation Syndrome or other known as PAS. It is a kind of disorder where a child continuously ignores his or her parents, insult or belittles them without justification. According to Gardner, the disorder is caused by a combination of factors. Examples of such factors are, indoctrination by other parent who is in custody of the child, the child is on a process of degrading the target parent, the effects of the modern environment or media and a lot more.

Though this is vividly apparent in many families worldwide, legal and medical communities didn’t recognized, Gardener’s theory because according to their scholars, it lacked reliability and scientific Validity.

How to cope with Parental Alienation?

Coping with parental alienation is very important on the part of the target parent to maintain a good relationship and a better way of life. What you can get here are some of the general coping methods. This is not in particular order and may apply either to mild or severe cases.

1. Learn the things about parental alienation, understand the dynamics, the child’s situation, and be equipped with the right knowledge to do and what might happen in the future. You are reading this now, meaning you are already on the right path and doing the right thing.

2. Don’t hesitate to share what you feel and what you are going through to other people. You can share it to your friends, to your spouse, and family members. They might be the people who can understand you and can support you much when it comes to this matter.

3. Take care of yourself. You should overcome stress and be strong for the sake of both your life and for your kid as well. When you know how to understand things to you, everything will flow as easy as pie.

4. Join a support group so that they can help you with your troubles. They can help you a lot when it comes to this matter in a safe and professional way.

5. Become actively involved in your child’s activities as much as possible. Give enough time for them in playing, reading books, watching TV and other recreational activities.

If you raise your awareness, coping with parental alienation will be much easier for you. Hopefully, this article can help you somehow.

-Flow Psychology Editor