It is typical not to notice that all people have its own problems, regardless of age or gender. Even new-borns have problems too, only that it is not as big and difficult as what the adults have.
Eventually, as people get older, problems get bigger too. It is because that after succeeding the different stages of life, people get matured too. So it is expected that more problems will come.
But here is the question that seems troublesome: how do these people cope up with problems?
The answer may vary, depending upon the situation where each individual is placed and on the mechanisms he does. There are people who just live their life easily even if there is a problem; there are also people who take immediate solution so as to address the problem; while there are also people who resort their life to something that will make them happy, but in the end the problem is still there.
Seemingly, among the three coping mechanisms above, the last one is not favourable. The irony is a lot of people nowadays have been doing the third one consciously or unconsciously. What could be the perfect examples for the third one? Below are typically seen examples:
1. First unhealthy coping mechanism- a problematic person who takes his way out to into drinking alcohols instead of thinking for the solution. Perhaps while he is in the spirit of alcohol, he feels he is away from the problem. However, problem is still a problem. It will not vanish unless the person involved has done something to address it.
2. Second unhealthy coping mechanism – a problematic person who resorts himself to being isolated at all. Although there are times that people prefer to be alone whenever there is a problem, but keeping one self to isolation is not good at all. Take note that it is far way better if you will share your problem to someone who can understand you as if he is putting himself too in your shoes.
3. Third unhealthy coping mechanism- a problematic person who makes the situation even more difficult than actually it is. Example, a person and his friend have a misunderstanding. Instead of directly saying the issue to his friend, he chose to tell the issue to someone who does not even know the root of misunderstanding. Does he think it would help?
Well, another irony is that a lot of people have been doing that. The issue is sent first to someone who is not even included before the real one could know it. Perhaps they just want to lessen the feeling which is hurtful and at the same time they don’t have the courage to tell it directly to their friend fearing that the friendship can be ruined. But let this be an eye-opener that if you really love your friend or someone, you should not hesitate to tell him the issue even if it can hurt both of you. Because in the end, you will still find that letting him know the issue is more helpful than letting others know it beforehand.
With the examples given above, each person must try to avoid doing unhealthy coping mechanisms which can only destroy their life as well as the life of others.